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The College Prep Bucket List

Posted by Neal Schwartz on December 11, 2018

What has changed about competitive college admissions over the last decade?

 


With college acceptance rates at an all-time low, qualified students need to find a way to show why they are unique and deserving of admission. 
What I have noticed is that parents often separate college prep into two separate buckets:



Add this to your college prep bucket list



Once it’s time to write the application essays it’s too late to start thinking about extracurriculars and out-of-school experiences. Students should start early in high school devising a college activities plan, incorporating things about which they are genuinely passionate. This will make the writing of the main and supplemental essays natural, logical and real. Students will be rewarded for taking action beyond just the usual community service.  The key is to try things that not everyone else is doing.


What does a College Activities plan look like?


It could be something like:
⦁ Talk to Uncle John about his profession and shadow him
⦁ Explore leadership roles in clubs where you are merely a member
⦁ Take a summer course in an area consistent with interests or long-range goals. NYC offers an abundance of such classes
⦁ Get involved in a political campaign
⦁ Come up with a product idea and pitch it
⦁ Get paid for coaching sports to local kids 
⦁ Work in a local retail store
⦁ Work at a sports arena

 

Students are already expected to do volunteer work, and many colleges have made volunteerism part of their supplemental essays.  Merely being a volunteer because you have to doesn't make it special. If you do volunteer, take it to the next level: help raise awareness; contribute a new, workable idea; create a new revenue stream.


The challenge happens when you, as a parent, suggest one of these ideas. Students often resist, claiming you don’t know what you’re talking about.  They sense you are just lecturing them, and you feel you aren't being listened to. First, help them to understand why the activities bucket is important, and then, together, discuss their interests, and brainstorm various ways to meet their goals.


What should students do now to best position them for college acceptance?
The answer to this question depends on many individual factors:
⦁ Student objectives;
⦁ Do they want a top school or something less competitive?
⦁ Burden of extra-curricular activities
⦁ Are they “overloaded” or “underloaded”?
⦁ Maturity about their future
⦁ Are they really passionate about the activity or doing it because you want them to?

The key is to come up with a college activity plan that fits the student. The high school and college years are about learning and trying new things. It is not uncommon for the best and brightest students to be resistant to something new and different, even if it was something that they chose. It’s natural to feel uncomfortable when trying something new. Taking the road less traveled is great from an experiential perspective but can also be marked by missteps and lessons learned. As a parent, continue to prod your adventurous student forward, but at the same time be sensitive to their hesitation. If their likes and desires are met at the same time as they are aiming for their goal, they are more likely to stick it out and succeed.



To Do: Suggestions for the Winter:

HS Juniors –
SAT-ACT Prep, Actual SAT-ACT Testing and College Activities Plan


HS Sophs –
College Activities Plan, schedule SAT-ACT Prep for the summer


 



Summary:

Whether it is your first time or the 3rd time through the college process, avoiding some key mistakes can help increase the chances that you stay sane and that your son/daughter get their best college fit. 



If you have a high school student and want to get started on the right path, contact us at 914-273-2353, nschwartz@collegeplanningofwestchester.com or visit us at: www.collegeplanningofwestchester.com 

 

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Topics: college admissions, admission advice, college advice, College Applications, college process, college prep, High school Activities, college activities plan, SAT/ACT, Community Service

Avoid these 9 college process mistakes

Posted by Neal Schwartz on November 01, 2018

 

Avoid these College Process Mistakes:

 

  1. Over emphasis on the “Main” Essay, leaving the rest of the application unbalanced
  2. Generalizing about all schools, judging from your knowledge of one school
  3. Exploring colleges too early or too late or just "rambling" across the country
  4. “Wasting” your ED choice
  5. Waiting until the last minute to finish before deadlines
  6. Expecting too much from college fairs
  7. Ignoring college visits at local high schools
  8. Visiting a college on one of their open house days
  9. Not realizing that student’s choices may pivot

1) OVER EMPHASIS ON THE “MAIN” ESSAY, LEAVING THE REST OF THE APPLICATION UNBALANCED

Sure, the main essay is probably the most visible way for a student to stand out. Does it flow?  Make sense? Have a point to it? Is it genuine?  Is it too perfect? Does it look like an adult wrote it, with “adult words and views?” After you feel comfortable with your answers to these questions, ask yourself a few more:  Did the same amount of care and quality go into the supplements?  Is there a sensible hierarchy to the activity list; i.e., does the 1 hour per week club in 9th grade start the list? 

The application should be balanced, with all elements and sections showing the same level of quality and attention to detail.


 2) Generalizing about all schools, judging from your knowledge of one school

This is my pet peeve.  The answers to a lot of critical college admission questions for your sons and daughters cannot be generalized. Stop taking advice from parents who went through the process with one kid, at a different time period, and with a different set of schools.  The best answer is that “It depends on the kid.”

There are also two key perspectives with this topic:

  1. Yes, the college site and admission office are the ONLY sources of accurate information. It is not uncommon today to have the schools change what they want at the last minute and not totally synchronize instantaneously with what is shown on common app, coalition app or Naviance.   Things change dynamically through the process.
  2. Colleges are marketing their schools; sometimes what they say on websites and in information sessions maybe more about selling the school than what they can actually deliver.

At the end of the day, seeking college information is akin to shopping for the best computer.  They all may look similar, but they have a wide range of capabilities and features, and what they offer isn’t always what you may expect.


3) exploring colleges too early or too late, or just "rambling" across the country


Visiting schools prior to Junior year should (in my opinion) be done for what I call “Category Schools.” Small, Medium Large; City, Country, Suburban; Technical, Liberal Arts; etc. You can start to narrow down choices by getting a general idea of what type of school you’d prefer.

Rambling visits.  It is not uncommon to find parents who decide to visit a bunch of schools without a thoughtful plan.  Some parents are so excited about this journey with their children that they often turn these trips into a series of short vacations.  But by not following a plan, these trips can get old before their time, and many can be costly. So, the advice here is to definitely visit, but put some real thought into the scheduling.

Late visits often result from busy school and life activities. The irony here is that the point of all the extracurriculars is to impress the colleges, but if there isn’t time to visit schools, calmly, then that may impact the college process and admission results.


4) "Wasting" your ED choice 

 

ED was intended for those students who are completely sure about their college choice and want to lock it in.  Unfortunately, ED has transitioned for many into the vehicle to win the lottery and shoot for the moon to gain acceptance into the most difficult schools.  I highlighted in an earlier blog the dangers and downsides of overshooting the target by over-reaching.  ED should be used for the selection of a reasonable school choice and not as a wildcard.

 

 


5) waiting until the last minute to finish before deadlines

Working with my own kids, I have experienced that 1:30am crunch on the day of the deadline.  There may be a surprise or last minute change in thinking late in the college process.  The problem is that the late night/early morning brain does not function well.  That is not the time to try to answer that difficult supplement essay question.  It may be the time to re-think whether you have to apply “early” rather than submitting something that is sub-par.

 


6) expecting too much from college fairs 

College fairs are held to help brand the college.  Sure, there may be a little time for a brief conversation, but the physical environment and stand-up conversation around the table of literature lends itself to brevity. Usually, college fairs are in the evening for a few hours.  Just getting around to the schools that you are interested in becomes an adventure.  Waiting your turn behind a chatty family just takes time away  from finding out about another college. When it is your turn, introduce yourself, get a name (it could end up being the admission counselor for your area) and after getting your literature and asking your brief questions, give the courtesy of a quick exit to the next family.


7) ignoring college visits at local high schools

 

This is one to really think about; it’s easy.  In conjunction with a college fair or a tour of their “territory,” a college admissions rep will visit high schools.  They could be the one responsible for your county or state.  Don’t underestimate how important it is to meet this rep and introduce yourself. They will take note of who attends those sessions.  The decision-maker doesn’t necessarily just reside in the admissions office on campus. If a student really cares about a particular college, they should show up, especially since all they have to do is walk down the hall. Yet, when I ask our brightest students about whether they went to their in-school college session, I often get a, “Oh no, I guess I should have gone.”   Sometimes you have to “touch all of the bases” to get that homerun.

 


8) visiting a college on one of their open house days

 

Wedged into the few official days off from school, family schedules, winter, spring and summer vacations, students must find the time to visit.  Although I am a big fan of open house days to see more than just an information session, expect to be underwhelmed by some of the basics—especially the tours—during the open house days.  There are just too many people, and the attention you get will be lacking.  See that same school on a less busy day, and you will likely have a totally different experience


 

9) not realizing that student's choices may pivot

 There is so much student development happening during the college process.  Schools that were definitely on the top of the list may fade, while earlier suggestions by parents and counselors that were completely dismissed may become favorites.  Expect as a parent that you will be surprised, shocked, disappointed and thrilled all the way through the journey. For some students, suggestions will only be considered from anyone but their parents. What do their parents know about college anyway?  So, as you scratch your head in total wonder, just buckle up and enjoy the ride.  I thoroughly enjoyed the ride with my kids and was sad when the “bonding” through college tours ended. Finding the right fit is important for sure, but the journey and together time as they grow, change and mature can be some of your best memories.


Summary:

Whether it is your first time or the 3rd time through the college process, avoiding some key mistakes can help increase the chances that you stay sane and that your son/daughter get their best college fit. 



If you have a high school student and want to get started on the right path, contact us at 914-273-2353, nschwartz@collegeplanningofwestchester.com or visit us at: www.collegeplanningofwestchester.com 

 

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Topics: college admissions, admission advice, college advice, College Essays, College Applications, college visits, early decision, college fairs, college open house, college process

Should You Apply Early Decision?

Posted by Neal Schwartz on September 04, 2018

 

What is early decision?  what is Early action?

 

why do schools offer ED?

 

should you apply early decision?

 

what is the downside of applying ED?

 

What is ED 2?

 

Any further ED advice

 

I was recently interviewed by what to do online about the topic of Early decision.  The questions are above. 

 

To view the article, click here.

 

 



If you have a high school student and want to get started on the right path, contact us at 914-273-2353, nschwartz@collegeplanningofwestchester.com or visit us at: www.collegeplanningofwestchester.com 

 

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Topics: college admissions, admission advice, college advice, College Applications, early decision, early action, early decision 2

How to excel in a holistic college admissions process

Posted by Neal Schwartz on July 26, 2018

 

How to differentiate two students when they look so much alike

HOlistic college admissions and its relationship to "personality"

 You have heard the story about the valedictorian that didn’t get into some,  or even all, of their schools.  If "the best of the best" can’t make it, what about your daughter (or son) who is not the valedictorian?  “What do they want from these kids?, I wouldn’t get into my school if I applied today! This whole college admissions process stinks!” These are just a few rants that you might offer to whoever is within earshot. 

With top schools rejecting 80-95% of qualified applicants (as determined by GPA and SAT/ACT scores), there is certainly enough credible basis to be uncomfortable with the process.   The irony is that there are more than enough colleges in the U.S. that will fit well for your son and daughter, but the upwardly mobile effort to get into the “best” schools is driving the continuance of disappointment for today’s applicants.

 

What is meant by Holistic Admissions?

Simply stated, holistic admissions is the usage of more than just metrics to determine admissions.  GPA and test scores alone do not take into account other subjective factors like:  diversity (geographic, racial, economic, sexual), application essays, recommendations, high school curriculum, legacy, extra-curriculars, college needs (maybe they want to boost computer science this year), etc.

The downside of a holistic review: It can promote bias, secretiveness, and distrust.  It is easy to hide the real reason for rejections behind the word “holistic”.   What is often heard is that, “we have so many qualified candidates, and we would like to accept them all.  The parent is left wondering, why not my kid?  If it was just the metrics alone, rejections would be easier to understand.   It becomes complicated when top schools receive applications with perfect GPA’s and near perfect test scores. This raises questions about fairness.  When you take the metrics out of the equation, there is less of an argument since no one really knows how a particular college makes their acceptance decisions.

The upside of a holistic review:  A student who may not come from the top 1% or a major metropolitan area or the best high school can be judged on their individual and distinctive merits.  Students who will contribute to the overall health and vitality of a campus can be recognized and rewarded, rather than the high scorers who may contribute only by scoring well on tests.  A campus filled with vibrant, active and engaging students, not just those who are good test takers, will attract other such students onto campus. 

Distinguishing students by "personality” is the answer to giving them the best possible chance of being admitted to even the best schools.   Does the student have a “story”?  She is the one (Fill in the blank: helped with the senatorial campaign, created a fund me page for a new technology product, pulled that kid out of a burning car, won the national robotics competition, was the bat girl for the Red Sox, was on American Idol, etc.) The best stories, or "tags" are those that are genuine and unique.

How to get tagged and stand out from the Pile of applicants--it's not just about community service any more. 

Since extracurriculars and/or specific diversity characteristics may not be enough to distinguish a student during the application process, how does one get “tagged”?  My view is that a student can earn their tag by doing something outside of the mainstream; even something outside of school.  Just a decade ago the “building homes in Nicaragua” approach was a distinctive community service tag.  Community service programs have evolved into structured programs that you can sign up for, like a teen tour and over time have lost much of  their “tag” value.  With so many students planning their community service, it is hard to distinguish those that are genuine.  It is not that community service is a bad thing; some students benefit greatly from their experience, but sometimes it is a bit forced. More important, when it is not as genuine, the college admissions community notices.

 

How many tags do you need?

 

Decades ago, students were advised to be "well rounded".  To be an All-American was to do so many things - the more the better.  To be captain of the football team and class president and a volunteer in the local nursing home was the ultimate.  Then, about 15-20 years ago, it was all about being passionate about one thing and be great with that one thing.  Sure in today's world you can be "tagged" or "passionate" about many things, but sometimes the variety dilutes the strength of the impression and the secondary tags get lost. It is just unrealistic to think that someone can be active and excel in an abundance of activities.

 

What about being a legacy? 

Certainly, there are still some cases of legacy that may influence the admissions decision, but these are often only cemented with true personality as well as impressive tags.  In today’s iphone driven world, those who can communicate well with others, (not always follow the path of others, and not be hampered by their age), can generate a distinct advantage.  Those who already offer some notoriety provide promise for the college as well.  

the power of the essay:

If your son or daughter wasn't the best in the state for fencing and didn't cure cancer over the summer, what can they do?  Other than moving to Idaho to claim a geographic advantage, the greatest platform to showcase one’s personality is through the essays.  Describing what was learned from a year- round job at a local business, as well as the learning and insight that occurred, can be valuable enough to distinguish a student.  

Summary:

Tags are as important as essays are.  But, tags should not necessarily be repeated again in the essays. The key is that tags and essays must be genuine to help the best students with their admission efforts. 



If you have a high school student and want to get started on the right path, contact us at 914-273-2353, nschwartz@collegeplanningofwestchester.com or visit us at: www.collegeplanningofwestchester.com 

 

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Topics: college admissions, admission advice, college advice, holistic review, tags, personality, College Essays, College Applications, college acceptance rates

A senioritis and post-graduationitis primer

Posted by Neal Schwartz on May 17, 2018

 

Senioritis and Post-Graduation-itis and their Impact on College

Senioritis-(definition from Urban Dictionary):

A deadly disease that strikes high school seniors. This disease makes seniors wear really smelly clothes, over-style their hair, and boys not care about shaving anymore. It also allows seniors to make excuses for not coming to school repeatedly, and it also allows them to party and get drunk as hell like college kids until they get in trouble with the police. Only cures are to put them in college or graduate.

After many high school seniors gain acceptance to their intended colleges, a pervasive and dangerous fog often becomes part of their daily life.   Years of working hard and doing all the “right” things have finally paid off, and they have reached the pinnacle.  They have achieved their objective of getting into a great school, and their friends have done the same.  Many students find themselves wanting to take their foot off of the accelerator and just relax.  Don’t they deserve it? The answer is that they should enjoy their success and relax a bit, BUT they should also remember what got them to that pinnacle can also become unraveled in a short period of time.  Ask any athlete, business professional, etc., whether they can just stop after succeeding. This conversation can be a tough one for students to hear, especially when the accolades are still ringing in their ears.

Not every student gets senioritis, but when enough seniors do, it can become contagious, infecting others nearby.  

When does senioritis occur?

This “disease” typically coincides with the college acceptance letter matching the student’s selected school.   Thanks to Early Decision/Early Action, senioritis can occur as early as December 15th of their senior year and can extend to regular decision notification in March/April.  The range of time for senioritis can be up to five months long. 

What are the risks of senioritis?

  1. Student’s offer from their selected college can be rescinded
  2. Student can develop bad habits related to school
  3. Students can develop bad personal habits

What dumb things do some students with senioritis do?

  1. Drink and post their “red cup” activity online
  2. Fail classes that risk High School graduation
  3. Cheat on tests because they didn’t study

 

Post-graduation-itis:

 

 

 

OK, so they finally graduated high school and are nine short weeks away from college orientation. What can go wrong now?  The answer from a parent of three is that this is the most difficult time of all.  

 

Risk:  Out of school and secure with the next step—college—parents become the only remaining influencing authority.   For the first time, a parent may discover that their angelic son/daughter will flex their wings to remind mom/dad that they are now a college student.   Basically, they will tell their parents to get off their back.  The student is fearless and independent. The parent will say something akin to, “While you are still under this roof, you need to do what we say.”  What occurs during the summer is something far different from senioritis, although it may look the same.  Students are now in an official transitional phase; they are NOT in HS and they are NOT in college.  This is purely an emotional state, with serious highs and lows. Students may embrace or distance themselves from HS friends and then either embrace or distance themselves from new college Facebook buddies.   Imagine a 13-year friendship that abruptly ends when one of them decides to move on. Emotions run high. 

 

Students can be wrapped up with a lot of feelings with the allure of college looming.  And yet, there is still the parent factor.  For some students, getting away from home is the best thing that could ever happen; others will be heartbroken to leave their home and supportive parents.  What makes post-graduation-itis so tough is that there is such a wide range of emotions.   Students are morphing, and it can be upsetting to them and those close to them.

 

Although post-graduation-itis has an enhanced emotional element of leaving something behind while moving towards something else, it still has the same set of common risks described above:

  1. Student’s offer from their dream college can be rescinded
  2. Student can develop bad habits related to school
  3. Students can develop bad personal habits

 

Things you can you do to parent through this situation:

  • Use facts to back up your fears
    • Use the Harvard example of rescinded offers (http://college.usatoday.com/2017/06/05/at-least-10-who-got-into-harvard-lose-admission-over-offensive-memes/)
  • Ask them if there is anything on their Facebook or Instagram feeds that might look offensive
  • For Senioritis:
    • Watch them “roam” and test their independence, but don’t be afraid to ask where they are going
    • Try to engage an older sibling to stay in touch with them
    • Find time to celebrate their wins and keep the parent-child bond strong and active
    • When they think about sleeping late or skipping school “because everyone else is doing it,” be thoughtful with your answer
    • When all else fails, re-state: “Not as long as you are under this roof”
    • Encourage their friends to come over your house so you can monitor what’s going on
  • For Post Graduationitis:
    • Same as above, but remind them that during this time, they need to start being that great college student BEFORE stepping onto that campus
    • Find time to talk to them about the tug from HS friends and the desire to make new friends. Discuss their fear of leaving what is safe and known, to venture into the new and unknown
    • Encourage them to embrace their long-term HS friends, and share what it was like for you; talk about your feelings and experiences
    • Give them time to feel uncomfortable and uncertain, yet excited all at the same time
    • Take that last family vacation before college starts
    • Use the summer to buy items needed for college

 

I can attest to the fact that senioritis exists, as does post-graduation-itis and that I never could have imagined my kids getting this disease.   Just be forewarned that the environment for seniors is ripe for them to do the uncharacteristic, to be different.   Stay in touch and help them manage this transitional period in their lives because they are likely to be uncomfortable and unsteady with the unknowns of sailing off into uncharted territory.


 



If you have a high school student and want to get started on the right path, contact us at 914-273-2353, nschwartz@collegeplanningofwestchester.com or visit us at: www.collegeplanningofwestchester.com 

 

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Topics: college admissions, admission advice, college advice, senioritis